With the beginning of the school year starting on Monday for the traditional kids, the amount of discussion about school work and requirements is in full swing around here. And the trend- as always- is for my kids to get an earful about how much they must be missing out on because they home school.
Over the last 4 days, the older kids have had events and activities with 4 completely different social groups from past schools, camps, or church groups as well as current church groups. They have been to several parties, gone surfing again, and spent stray hours text messaging and IM’ing kids and adults all over the world. So, I can’t help but laugh when I am told they don’t get enough socialization.
They have been accused of being lazy, which is clearly evidenced by the fact that E chose to complete 2 full grades last year rather than one and scored “advanced” for 8th grade (he was 11) on the mandatory state testing at the end of the year.
I have been accused of pushing them and not allowing them to have a childhood, also evidenced by the many hours they spend reading fiction, surfing, playing on their bikes and going to the park- among other things. Last year, I required a mandatory pajama day every week, just to take a day off and lounge around with no schedule. Because I am an ogre who hates it that they are still kids. I clearly want to get them out of the house as soon as possible, hopefully with jobs so I can stop supporting them.
Again today, E and R were told that they are missing a fundamental part of their lives by not going to high school. Mental? Sure. I can get behind high school being mental. Fundamental for all kids? Notsomuch. Yay that it works for some kids. I am genuinely happy for the kids who have a good high school experience. I just don’t happen to believe that everyone finds the same happiness in that experience. Which is why my kids get to choose. Let me say that again. My kids get to CHOOSE whether they attend traditional high school or not. CHOOSE. As in, free agency.
And, my personal favorite- being home schooled makes kids arrogant. Come again? Arrogant about home school? Honestly, are they arrogant when they talk to other kids about it and I just don’t know? Because the vibe I get is that they prefer not to talk about it since they have to constantly defend themselves.
These kinds of judgments and harassments happen year round. Weekly and sometimes daily. It’s getting old. My kids are not lacking essential knowledge, I don’t hear that they are ill-behaved, their social interactions are rewarding and fulfilling for them, and they are clearly healthy and happy.
So, can anyone tell me why everyone cares so much about our personal school choices? Am I missing something here?